The Past

The main and only reason that I had when I started blogging was to document my life, a reason for me to look back in the past and see how much have changed.

Yeah... That's the thing, change. Today I played an album that has emotional connection to me. That album represented a period of my life, not just any period, but THAT period: high school. Here it is, in Swedish: http://soofsofia.bloggplatsen.se/sida-2/

I often think about my high school time. I think most Swedish people have a special place in their hearts for this period of time. It was revolutionary for us all, good or bad. For me it was... Both. But I mostly have very positive and happy moments when I think about it. Real love, real heart breaks, real parties, real drama, stuff like that. I was very, if not extremely active. Socially active. Everyday was a new adventure, a lot has to do with Kk that I hung out with after school, she would hang out with me and we'd go on different adventures and explored Stockholm on our own. Spontaneous hangouts. Then Diana also has a major role in my life, thank God she is still in my life, can't be thankful enough, she is my party buddy, the party queen, Queen D, haha. She is always up for a good time, for parties in any form. And then we have miss SaumaN, the grounded mum, hahaha! No but she is so wise, a real shoulder to lean on and talk about anything with. These people, these girls, made up most of my time in high school and we have gone through so much together.

And then there's the "extras"... Otto... Islam.. These bitches fucked me up in so many ways.

You change during this time, you find yourself along the way, or at least are on your way to find yourself. But one thing is for sure, you change. And you know that.

For me, where I stand... Looking back a half year ago, 6 months ago, I would be very secure about my life choices. It went okay, I was still interested in life and what it had to offer. But the months passed and here I stand.. 6 months later and I've turned 180. So much has happened inside my head and heart. I am more lost than I've ever been in my life. This is my kryptonite.  I've never failed in my life, it has always been straight forward, but now here I stand, fucking lost and shit and I have a huge mountain to climb, not just that, but I am also carrying fucking elephants on my shoulders. This is my biggest challenge ever, in my life. God gives his strongest soldiers his hardest challenges.. Yeah, some quote is going like that.

No but seriously...

Abandoned building!

I filmed these videos back in 2013 but I never made the videos until now... But here they are! Check out my channel where I have more newly posted "abandoned videos", but also my Thai/Vietnam trip from 2013!

Wtf World, Wtf?!

I just need to rant on this one. 

Here's a text that has thousands of likes on Facebook and people seem to praise this dude for his "wise words", when in fact it's just common sense. Excuse for any weird words or sentences, this was immediately translated through Google. But you'll get the point.

"This man is dating a woman even though he is married ... It looks disgusting, but I am still forced to admit that he has an excellent reason to do it!

It may seem shocking, but his words are, after all, very wise ... Jared Wilson is an author, pastor and spouse.

He also has a blog where he writes very sensible things ... And he has also used his blog to this remarkable confession which recently has spread like wildfire on the net ... You will soon understand why.

"I have a confession ... I am married and have a mistress.

Yes, I am dating a woman. It is truly an amazing girl. She is beautiful, smart, mischievous and she's strong ... I like to go out with her at night, take her out to a restaurant, cinema and when I'm with her I tell her how wonderful she is. I can not be mad at her for more than five minutes, and when I see her smile brightens the whole of my day.

Sometimes she comes to see me at work and without notice. Sometimes she takes me on a delicious lunch or surprise she me with a good cake that she has baked. I can not understand how I could be so lucky to meet this woman, even though I'm married. By the way, I encourage you to really test you as well, you will see what a delight it is in life!

Oh! Did I say that this mistress, the woman who I date, also my wife? Well, what did you think ...?

What I would say is that the love life does not stop just because you're married. I want to continue to be my wife's lover and go out with her as if it were the first time even though I'm married to her. I do not want to stop courting her, I would not stop charm her just because we both have said "yes". But I often see relationships that fall into a routine for the two parties are no longer see themselves as lovers.

When you are with someone you get to know a person in a special and unique way. Why would you want it runs out? It should not make. The passion you knew on a first date should not have to be extinguished because of the years go by. Wake up each day and courting your wife as if you were still at the beginning of the relationship. You'll see that if you see it that way, then your relationship will change completely.

The key to any relationship whatsoever is communication and the quest to constantly be loved by the other. What would love be without it?

I encourage you therefore to dating your wife, to woo her with all your energy and all your heart ... And that a "yes" does not mean that you have won her and that you have nothing more to do. On the contrary, it is just the beginning. "

- Jared Wilson"

I know it's not obvious to everyone and obviously it isn't since people praise this dude. But if you really think about this, isn't this common sense in a way? I think most of us can come to this thinking in our minds if we just sat down and reflected upon this. 

I knew very early in the text that he was speaking about the same woman and not two separate. 

Maybe I'm too much of a romantic, maybe I'm very old-fashioned when it comes to love and relationships but if I would be in a serious, healthy relationship then these things would come automatically, the "dating things" Wilson is writing about. Shouldn't we all go on dates with our loved ones, even if it's a marriage of 30 years? As Wilson says in the text, you shouldn't settle because the years pass by. I understand relationships actually turn into more of a friendship down the road, if you think about it. When feelings settle and that first spark has kind of diminished. But it's just fucking common sense to keep the spark up with these dates. I don't understand how this text got so popular. I can only come to one answer why, and that is simply because people fucking forgot how to keep the love up and going. People forgot how to cherish their loved ones, people forgot how to appreciate the love and remind each other that they are fucking loved, beautiful and awesome. People forget to remind each other about that. And that is what made me pissed. 

Everybody wants to feel loved, cherished and appreciated, sometimes being spoiled... Men and women. So why not just fucking give that to each other? And if the other person doesn't see these beautiful acts of yours then let them fuck off.

Bye.